Welcome to Kala’s Quick Five, where I chat with fascinating authors, artists, teachers and researchers and ask them five questions about their work. My guest today is Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret. Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion. She is the author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction, an international bestselling book. Arielle lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends.
Kala: Arielle, Welcome to Kala’s Quick Five. Before meeting your soulmate at the age of 44, you were a successful career woman, but described yourself as a ‘failure in romantic relationships.’ What was dating like for you in your twenties and thirties?
Arielle: Painful. I never enjoyed casual dating and I generally felt awkward and clumsy on dates. I had a few longer term relationships during that time but they weren’t satisfying…I was always try to “change” the one I was with to fit into my “picture” of how things should be. Thankfully I went to therapy and did a few relationship workshops that turned me around!
Kala: You’ve set out to prove in your book that anyone can attract their soulmate at any age of their life. How did you find true love?
Arielle: I woke up one morning at the age of 43, never-married, and decided I was ready for my soulmate. Having used a variety of “manifestation techniques” throughout my career to create success, I decided to re-purpose those prayers, rituals, and processes for my lovelife. The first step was to forgive myself and all the ex-lovers that I judged having, “done me wrong.” Next, I made a very detailed soulmate wish list along with a beautiful ritual to release it to the Universe. I then “feathered my nest” and prepared my home “physically and
energetically” to make space for my soulmate. I began “living as if,” and “savoring the waiting.” All of these processes are detailed in my book, The Soulmate Secret. Within six months I met Brian and we both knew the day we met that we were meant to be together. Three weeks later we were engaged and a year after that we had three weddings. That was 13 years ago.
Kala: What tips can you offer to our readers on how they can attract and connect with their soulmate?
Arielle:It’s important to understand how the Law of Attraction works. We draw to us the people, places, and experiences that match our state of being. If we are living in a state of “wanting” a relationship, the message we send the Universe is that something is “missing” and then we only get more of the same – the feelings of “missing” and “wanting.” In order to manifest you must live in a stating of “knowing” and “trusting” that the LOVE you desire is already yours. To get to this state I have a process I take people through that I call “feelingizations.” While many have heard about “visualizations,” I have renamed them “feelingizations” because they don’t work without strong emotion behind them. In order to manifest our desires we need to feel that what we have asked for is already ours. It’s the feeling not the image that holds the power to attract. You can try them out for free by visiting my website at www.soulmatesecret.com/audio
Kala: Part of your book deals with clearing out emotional baggage, before beginning to look for a new relationship. How does this baggage hinder the search for a soulmate?
Arielle:If we begin manifesting on top of the unhealed past we are likely to create more of what we created in the past. If you are still obsessing about a past lover, there is no room for a new one. I am not suggesting that you stop caring about someone, but I am saying you need to manage your thoughts and emotions so that you no longer obsess about them. Think of it this way. There is only room for one car in a parking space. If you already have a car in the parking space, you can’t squeeze another one in on top of it.
Kala: My soulmate and I have been together for many years. I found him after I learned to love myself and want the best for myself in every capacity. I think coming into a relationship with self-love made our relationship stronger. How important is self-love in regards to relationships with soulmates?
Arielle: Self-love is an important piece of the puzzle. If you don’t care about you, how can you ask someone else to care about you? The way you nurture yourself sends a message to others that you will care for them the same way.
For those who have an issue with self-love I suggest this simple exercise: every time you walk past a mirror, blow yourself a kiss!
The one thing I want everyone to know is this: There are nearly seven billion people on that planet today. About half are single. The odds are in your favor that you will find love, regardless of your age, weight, income, past history, etc. IF you are willing to invest a little time, energy, intention and attention to your love life. I have tons of proof this process works. It even worked for my 80-year-old mother-in-law!
Kala:Thank you for your time Arielle. More information about Arielle Ford and her work can be found on her website at: www.soulmatesecret.com and www.facebook.com/soulmatesecret
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